Words to the Wise
Feb. 14th, 2008 @ 08:08 am
As you go through life, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- You are not as fabulous as you think you are. Somewhere in this world, there is always someone better than you, and someone worse than you, at practically everything. You are entirely average in a completely unique way.
- Chances are you will only have one "great love" in your life. Other than that, every romantic relationship you will have will end, and chances are, badly. Your best option is to enjoy them for whatever they are, and don't let the bad ending ruin your memory of the good times. After all, you were there for a reason, right?
- Don't be so hard on yourself all the time. Realistically, everyone else is so consumed with being hard on themselves that they don't have time to notice your every flaw.
- Over time, our friends become as much our family as our family is. Have all the acquaintances you want... but be careful who you let into your family.
- You aren't a "good person". Fortunately, you're probably also not a "bad person". You're just you... you just "are". "Good" and "Bad" vary dramatically in the eyes of everyone else, and very few agree entirely. Just be you, and let everyone else worry about being good or bad. Believe me... they will anyway.
- You're a slut. ...or at least you will be eventually. If you went on one date a week, and only slept with someone after the third date (a long time in our world), you would have slept with 17 people in the first year. That's 170 people in ten years. The label is what hurts, not the number. The number is almost inevitable.
- Give up. Go ahead. It's neither weak or stupid. Giving everything you've got may be admirable, but if you die in the process and still don't succeed, it may not be the best option. So give up today, and try again tomorrow... or maybe find that person that's better than you. It's the smarter, stronger, more self-confident person that can acknowledge their limits and request help overcoming them.
"Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of '97... wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be IT."
Yeah... I couldn't help but draw that parallel too :)
it all started with the "fabulous" thing... I'm noticing a lot of people that are screaming their "I'm awesome" from the highest rooftops. It's kinda dumb.
the truly secure don't need other people to believe it for it to be true.
anyway... that's enough of my nevinisms for the day. :P
Oh Nevin... what ever became of him?
Others can say more... but lets just go with "we lost touch" :)
WTF is with your icon btw? :P
(and who is he so I can do him? :P)
You OBVIOUSLY don't watch "So You Think You Can Dance?". His name is neil haskell. Google him and enjoy.
My icon is him too *grins*
|Date:||February 15th, 2008 02:47 am (UTC)|| |
From another POV, it seems like you're evangelizing a persistent commitment to mediocrity, wherein it's OK to be nothing special, because you're _uniquely_ unspecial and needn't feel bad about it.
I don't buy it.
Certainly no one should slide into depression if their best in life doesn't break the surface tension. This doesn't imply that the failure of some to excel endorses that of the rest.
On a long enough timeline, every contribution counts. In the short term, and the world you immediately live in, we are not all winners.
...isn't everything a matter of perspective? :)
The first point could accept that you're Einstein, and you're therefore better than most at physics... but you could have horrible interpersonal skills... or someone else may be better at art than you. No one is ever 110% at everything... so maybe you can defy mediocrity in certain areas, but as a whole you're likely still just "medium", and even if you're better than "medium", you're still not perfect.
...if you want to accept the "every contribution counts" as your preferred value, then dying for a cause isn't failure, but a contribution you're willing to make toward success. However, it comes at the price of having other potentially valuable contributions, and it comes at the risk of not knowing if it was truly valuable or not in the long term. If that is where you (the proverbial you) choose to place your value, then I at least applaud the ability to make a decision in that regard. :)