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I realized that lately I haven't been posting as much. I could say it's because I don't get as many responses as I previously might have (which is true to a certain extent)... or that I don't have anything interesting to say... but those really either don't matter or are lies. The truth is that I've unintentionally started to hold off so that I don't do such reactionary posts. Something happens in my life and I go off about it, and find out later it's not that big of a deal or it's resolved itself... and after having posted it, I feel like I've made a fool of myself by making a big deal out of nothing, or expressing views based on an extreme perspective that, once reality kicks in, isn't really as valid.

You could argue that that's really the point of journaling... to get your feelings for a moment in time out... and to hell with the extremety of your feelings... that's what future postings are for. To some degree I agree with that perspective... diaries, logs, journals, blogs are all about documenting and expressing your life, moment-to-moment... remembering how you felt when it happened.

Maybe if I could imply a 1 week delay on what people see, I'd be willing to do that... but the risk of doing that is that people see what you're privately thinking at that moment and react to it... when maybe they really shouldn't be reacting to me being extreme, but give me the chance to settle a bit, at which point I'd probably engage them anyway. we'll see.
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From:soundofthemoon
Date:February 20th, 2004 10:33 am (UTC)

self education

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I think it's useful to write down your immediate reaction, then see a week or two later that you over-reacted. I do that, and then next time I'm about to over-react I remember that I'm probably over-reacting. Or at least I hope I do!
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From:elo_sf
Date:February 20th, 2004 10:49 am (UTC)

lj and comments

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I think some of it is that LJ tends towards few comments, something about the nature of it. Also, I think the (few) blogs that attract tons of comments per entry are the exception, not the rule, I know I had grand plans when I started my LJ that I would be deep and insightful regularly and get lots of comments, yadda yadda, :)
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From:soundofthemoon
Date:February 20th, 2004 11:23 am (UTC)

Re: lj and comments

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Seems like the users who have the most friends are the ones with cute and revealing user pictures, and the entries that get the most comments are the ones that are about sex or drama. People are as shallow on LJ as they are anywhere (except Friendster).
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From:kuteluvr
Date:February 20th, 2004 11:47 am (UTC)

Re: lj and comments

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touché :) There is no more shallow medium than Friendster. :)
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From:elo_sf
Date:February 20th, 2004 02:20 pm (UTC)

Re: lj and comments

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Hmm, not sure about shallow, depends on your circle of friends...
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From:kuteluvr
Date:February 20th, 2004 11:49 am (UTC)
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Does anyone else find it ironic also that the entries that get the most comments are the ones complaining about a lack of comments? It's prob that people feel guilty and are willing to attempt to console the complainer. Reminds me of my old boss here at work as we were going to someone's going away party... "It's pretty sad that the only way to get a party in this company is to quit." :P
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