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From:salacious_pop
Date:March 21st, 2005 07:46 pm (UTC)

Well..

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.. complete lack of tact re: the other person aside, why would you post anything to an open forum that's available for anyone to see?

You wouldn't post your credit card number on here.. treat it the same way. There are security options within the journal that can be used to say your peace while limiting accessability.

While this isn't your fault, it's a journal second, and an internet community first.

LJ growing pains can suck.
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From:kuteluvr
Date:March 21st, 2005 08:04 pm (UTC)

Re: Well..

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In theory, I agree with you. However... the individual(s) to whom which I'm referring ARE on my friends list, and would therefore have been able to see it. I've chosen to make an attempt to filter/censor my entries as little as possible.

The person that was spoken badly of was aware of the things that were said. It was the attempted stirring up of shit in a very visible and public way that caused issue in this instance... it had already been handled internally. The issues here are that this isn't the first time this/these individual(s) have actively stirred shit up... they appear to have an ongoing propensity for it.

Finally, I totally agree that it's an internet community first. If this person felt like commenting on my journal that would have been fine. It's the fact that they took it to the next level that's really at issue.

I grant that I could have not said anything in my journal, and I grant that person I spoke of originally could have not reacted to the public rudeness... but the third person is really the issue here. How did any of it concern them to the point that they had to make an active dialog about it? How is it that they had to intentionally present information in a specifically offensive way? How is it their job to take a public venting as a conversation that it's their responsibility to have? It really had nothing to do with them. If this is truly an "internet community" then there are social behaviors that allow that community to flourish... and this one that should be acknowledged and eradicated.
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From:huckie
Date:March 21st, 2005 09:13 pm (UTC)

Re: Well..

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Some people are just born without tact, but you must also remember that the key issue with internet communication is that it is impersonal with a false sense of being personal. Communication and language is all about the process of negotiation. In person, there are reactions that can be gauged, follow-up questions that can be asked, clarifications to be made. When reading a journal, you're totally right, you only get one side of the story, but the impression is falsly left that you have the whole story.

That being said, one should have proper ettiqute and at least enough brain cells to realize that they are not the center of the universe. Yes, a brief look of surprise might be expected if you just read some scathing LJ post only to meet the now happy couple walking hand-in-hand on the street...but I would totally agree that it's a faux pas to bring up something old when the situation has obviously changed. This generally aplies to any situation, whether it's LJ or some previous in-person conversation.
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