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I have to move soon... but I'm not sure where... and it's a HUGE question hanging in my mind.

I've expressed my dislike of living in Sf proper. As much as I'd like to think of myself as a cityboy, fact is, I'm just not. I find the city to be exceptionally obnoxious. Too many people... too much noise... too much difficulty living my life the way I enjoy living it (for example, getting in the car to go for a drive is a 20 minute ordeal). This was a pretty simple decision way-back-when... I was going to move back into Craig's house (same place I left to move to the city) once there was an opening. No problem. I was very, very happy there... it met all of my quality-of-life standards, and I enjoyed all of the roommates there. It was pretty much perfect.

Fast-forward to today: Craig's told me that one of the roomies is really close to leaving, so my reserved table is almost ready... but now Austin and I have grown closer, and there's an idea of moving in together being tossed around. We kinda agree that it's mostly a discussion topic right now (though we did look at a couple of places together this past weekend, and agree on which one we like most).

Here are my options:
Move back into Craig's house
Pros: Comfortable place that I've enjoyed living in before, exceptionally good rent, good location for work and most of personal life.
Cons: Longer drive for either Austin or myself.
Relocate within SF
Pros: not a huge move, possible happiness with cityboy life, reasonably close to all friends everywhere.
Cons: It's still the city, most expensive option to find anything decent.
Find somewhere myself in the northbay (Marin/Tiburon/etc)
Pros: Good in-between for Austin and I, close to either the Roseville or Palo Alto offices for work, gorgeous, relaxed location, close to the city without being in the middle of it.
Cons: still relatively expensive, no real social life in truly close proximity.
Merge closets with Austin in the northbay:
Pros: Living with love, +all Pros of Northbay option
Cons: All Cons of Northbay option, Moving in with someone you're in a relationship with is a HUGE step.

I'm just not sure what's most important to me: Save money (I'd just spend it somewhere else), have nearby friends (I'd prob make more, and wouldn't lose the ones I have), or Austin and our relationship, and to what degree (it could get better, it could get worse). I think the most honest truth is that I feel like my relationship is a major consideration, but I'm not really ready for the move-in yet. At the same time, if we do get there soon, I don't want to move twice. (I've moved twice in the last year already, and I'm done with it for a while)

The only thing that's absolute is that I need to figure this out soon. People are waiting on me, I need to let them know what's going on, and I need enough time to give official notices myself. (and all of this is better when it's not down to the wire).

The confusion continues....
Current Mood: uncomfortableuncertain
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Date:May 3rd, 2005 11:56 pm (UTC)
If and when I move, yeah, parking space no longer required... though it will miss it's home when it happens. :)
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Date:May 3rd, 2005 08:45 pm (UTC)
I can understand your dislike for city living. I thought I would hate it for pretty much the same reasons, but I'm kind of growing acustomed to it. I love driving into the castro at the end of the day. Those last 5 minutes really brighten my day. I think having convenient parking makes the world of difference though. The couple times I've had to find parking or trek up to dailybinx's car in the morning have been completely annoying.

As for moving in with a bf, there's never a good time to do and you're never really going to be ready for it. You kind of have to ask yourself two questions. First, am I willing to make this work no matter the cost? And second, am I OK with the potential consequences of having this fail miserably? And by that, I don't necessarily imply that the relationship fails miserably, just that the living arrangements fail, or some ideal dream or vision gets shot down.

That all being said, don't take advice from me, cause dailybinx and I moved in together about a week after we started dating. Bad gays, bad example to follow.
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Date:May 3rd, 2005 11:47 pm (UTC)
You two are such cute lesbians... ;)
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