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So, Jason and I had decided that we WERE NOT going to officially attempt to do anything for pride. We knew, being at the corner of Gay & Gay, it was going to happen... there's just nothing we can do to stop it, and I think when we moved in our landlord made indications that if we didn't throw a party, well, it was a waste of the apartment. So we just threw some things together, and let things happen.

And holy shit.

It was mellow enough to begin with, and when friends started showing up and hanging out, having drinks, it was a good time for all. Then the shit started going down.

From naked people on the balcony (okay, I admit it, Austin and I managed to collectively start that one off... but it wasn't supposed to go as far as it did), to MORE people getting naked on the balcony, to people climbing the ladder on the fire escape up to my LANDLORD's landing (thanks), to the GHETTO that arrived. Broken poster glass, random people, friends of friends of friends of friends, people skirting other people in the gate, it just turned into a crazy night. I have pictures of a lot of it... arguably more than I should (and I'm not posting those), but I'd say that overall, it was a fun night. There were some times that I could have done without ("EXCUSE ME... ANYONE THAT DOESN'T KNOW MY NAME WILL HAVE TO LEAVE!"), but it was still a really good time.

I heard last night (and am reading a lot today) about people not thinking the excessive nudity on the balcony was in anything even remotely relating to good taste... but honestly, it was all in fun. I mean, Pride isn't just about politics (and arguably I wish it were less so), it's about celebrating the gay community and the sexual freedom from opression and judgement that it represents. In that way, pornography, excessiveness, and stereotype breaking, are part of our culture... and the desire of "cute young boys", etc., though not globally agreed on, are more frequent than not. So, as crass as it may be, it's not something that I personally have a problem with. It's fun, playful, over-the-top, in one of the only venues where such things can happen.

Plus, if you're no longer in your early 20's, think about how it was when you were... you may not have gone so far as to strip down and stand on a balcony... but having thousands (litterally) of people scream your name and desire you... yeah, okay, it's gratuitous, but it's still incredibly flattering.. the ultimate ego-boost. It's better than that one look you're going to get from one boy in a bar. You may disagree with the method... but when you're in that moment, it's still fun, and it still makes you feel good.
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Date:June 26th, 2005 08:30 pm (UTC)
Excessive nudity sounds like an oxymoron to me.
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Date:June 27th, 2005 01:15 am (UTC)

heh ..

somehow, we managed to miss the excessive nudity (although I'll agree with huckie that such is oxymoronic) although at one point I looked up and thought "holy fuck, does kuteluvr really have such ghetto trashy friends?!?"

i hope there's no collateral damage that makes moving too much of a hassle. pride certainly leaves its casualties behind.
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Date:June 27th, 2005 04:31 pm (UTC)
I fully support stripping down and getting naked on your balcony, at any time in general, but especially on Pride. Great work, and keep up the fun fimes!

Date:June 28th, 2005 04:31 pm (UTC)
It is indeed excessive and actually it is what helps perpetuate the stereotypes of gay men that we are trying to break down. You don't see straight men at straight parties stripping down and running through the streets like that. Only gay men feel this obsessive need to show as much flesh as possible. Congratulations on your assistance in giving the homosexual community the black eye that it is trying to move away from.
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Date:June 28th, 2005 07:25 pm (UTC)

the real black eye is self loathing

> You don't see straight men at straight parties stripping down and running through the streets like that


Have you ever gone to Spring Break? They are as equally as decadent as gay pride. How about to Mardi Gras in New Orleans?

This need to subjugate ourselves to some Puritan-like state in order to not offend the straights so they will accept us is total bullshit. I did not come out in order to be less free than I was when I was hanging out at frat parties pretending to be straight.

Homophobic people are uncomfortable seeing gay men in sexually-charged environments. Homophobic people are okay with Will and Grace as long as there isn't an on-screen kiss.

I accept the criticism we get from the fag-bashers because I have to. And while I understand the struggle, I will never in my life understand the internal bullshit and attacks from inside the gay community itself.

At the end of the day, do you really want to live your life up to the standards of those who don't accept you?
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Date:June 28th, 2005 05:14 pm (UTC)

the lack of accountability in that posting is amazing... why do people not log in when such comments are made? Scared little kids... that's what they are...
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Date:June 28th, 2005 07:26 pm (UTC)
damn. i still need to hit a SF pride one of these days. They need to not schedule them at the same time as NY's!
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