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Ya know the major problem with a relationship? It's the process of getting into one.

I don't mean the days after you get into one... or even when you "first meet" the guy...when it's all butterflies and wonderful. I mean those first few days/weeks/months <insert your own measure here> when things are just starting out... you're getting to know each other... you're really, really liking things... and you find yourself asking those stupid questions that only lead to more questions and second-guessing the questions. (while the butterflies still dance)

The base question is usually something like "Where is this going?" That leads to the extended questions of "Do I want it to go there?" or "Am I ready for that?" and "Is he interested in that with me?" then it's "Is it too soon to be thinking about these things?" and "If I mention it will I scare him off?" coming up from behind with "What kind of 'that' would I want?" nipping at their heels. (okay... horserace analogy ending now.)

The frightening thing is that for the moment, I'm fairly clear about what I really want... and he seems to be magically falling further and further into that space... but I think even mentioning these things only corrupts what's forming naturally.

At the moment, the plan is to "just leave it alone, Chris". I'll be whatever it's supposed to be. It will all happen naturally... and suddenly you'll find yourself in a conversation about what "we are" rather than what "we should be". That's a good thing.

Just leave it alone, Chris. ;)
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Date:January 18th, 2004 11:47 am (UTC)
*HUG* I completely understand where you're coming from. Did you doubt? *smirks*
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Date:January 19th, 2004 10:04 am (UTC)
This shouldn't come as any surprise, but I had you in mind when I was writing it... :)
Date:January 18th, 2004 03:04 pm (UTC)
I think leaving things alone and letting them take whatever course they may is the best strategy as well...you can't make something happen that's not there, nor can you save something from itself if it is going to unravel.
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